Motherhood blog 0-3 months

It’s 1:30 am and as another night feed goes ahead I often find myself looking at Aubrey in the light of our nightlight reflecting on our time as a family so far. Most will know the sleep deprivation is hard but overall I think we have been very lucky, as Aubrey appeared to set herself a routine waking twice a night fairly consistently. It’s safe to say though this first 3 months have gone by in a flash.

Month one was tough. Two weeks paternity leave for my partner wasn’t anywhere near enough, and ours was filled with the newborn fog, one 24hour sickness bug, flu and a chest infection. Safe to say as first time parents we were frazzled. Aubrey flourished despite this, and by the time we got to our last midwife appointment she was ‘a picture of health’ and we were discharged, for which I am so grateful. The pain of those first few days of my milk coming in and making the decision to persist with breast feeding had been worth it. It’s no easy task and I am still of the opinion, a fed baby is a happy baby, no matter which way you choose to do that.

The brutal reality of recovering from birth hit me hard. Following our assisted delivery in theatre with episiotomy and forceps, the pain persisted for several weeks. I think I felt comfortable by around 4-5 weeks, but the pelvic floor weakness still bothers me now. However, I pushed myself to get out and we enjoyed early sensory classes and more recently some baby massage. I have also been very lucky with the time I get to spend with friends and their babies.

At 5 weeks we had a family trip to York, for Aubrey’s Nanny’s 60th. We couldn’t believe even then she was giggling and smiling in response to us. Seeing here develop even more since then has been magical. She is a very chatty and giggly baby, however, the new screech she has learnt is loud! She likes to practice this in the supermarket, a lot. Now at the end of 3 months, she has found her feet and toes, blowing raspberries and the rolling will be only a matter of days away.